[BTS] Redefining Success for this Season and You're Allowed to Celebrate the Good Things

In this episode, we cover: 

• You get to redefine what success looks like and you get to redefine it as many times as you want. 
• You are allowed to celebrate and enjoy being on the mountain top.
• It is okay to enjoy complements from others.

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Remember that, you are worthy. You have value. You get to take up space in this world simply because you exist. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, convenience you otherwise. If that idea or vision for your life is in you, then it is for you.

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Chapters

• 0:07 Living Audaciously
• 8:38 Embrace Compliments to Boost Confidence
• 16:44 Embrace Your Worth and Shine

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:07

Can you believe they have the audacity? Welcome to the have the Audacity podcast. I'm your host, jacey Lawlin. I'm on a mission to empower women like you to live audaciously. What does it mean to live audaciously, you ask? Living audaciously means you're no longer available for living your life based on someone else's agenda, standards or boundaries. It's time to activate your power, use your voice and create the life you're meant to live. So the next time someone asks, can you believe she had the audacity, you can look at them and say, yeah, I did.

Speaker 1: 0:41

Hey, audacious Human, I'm so glad that you're here for today's episode and I am going to be really honest with you right now. Um, I am supposed to be working on something else when I'm recording this episode, talking to you, apologizing in advance if your dog's barking in the background I have four and they're there. It is what it is. Anyway, I'm supposed to be working on some curriculum mapping for my teaching job. I'm just getting prepared. We go, we start back the 1st of August and if you're listening to this in real time, like I, go back to work next week on Monday and the kids go back the 14th of August, and so, yeah, we're just getting back into the full swing of things. Summer's pretty much over, and so just trying to get things prepped ahead of time for that, and yeah, so we're just trying to get things ready, and I'm a productive procrastinator I like to use that term and I wonder if I'm the only one so like let me know, send me a text message. If you're listening on apple, you can click the little dots, the button with the three little dots, and it'll say go to episode. It'll take you to the show notes. There's a button there right at the top that says send us a text. I am the us, the us is me, and she made like a little squirrel squirrel emoji. Let me know I'm not alone, that you know, a squirrel for ADHD, anyway. But yes, I productively procrastinate, and while I was productively procrastinating, I was planning out some podcast stuff Like what do I want the month of August to look like?

Speaker 1: 2:20

Because it's going to be busy, and it's a busy time for teachers. There's a lot of extra events, learning new schedules, meeting new students, my job, my position in the school system, I have more paperwork than I normally do and deadlines that I have to make, and so August is just a busy time. It's also my birthday month, so definitely gonna make time to celebrate that, even though I'm in my 30s. It's very weird to me. Anyway, now I'm gonna be like in my 30s, but anyway, I was just looking at this and was like, how can I prepare myself for the month of August, myself for the month of August? Like, what can I do now to proactively set myself up for success in this season that I know I'm going to be busy? How can I support my goals? Well, if you don't follow me on Instagram, I have been doing this daily good news reels. I share something good that happened in the world on that day because I feel like we need that reminder. So if you need that, follow me on Instagram.

Speaker 1: 3:31

At JC Lawler, I am giving good news every evening and I was like, okay, I have to keep that on my plate, like that's not going anywhere and that's fun for me, and so we're keeping it. This podcast is a big goal of mine and growing this show and showing up for you consistently and doing it in a sustainable way and sharing with you in real time when I'm navigating, and so I thought putting out episodes every week, that's still super important because you know if you've been listening to the show for a while, or if you're binge watching, or if you're new. I took a couple months off. You've been watching binge listening.

Speaker 1: 4:07

I took a couple months off at the beginning of 2024 because I was just not doing things in a sustainable way. I have all these goals and I was going full force into all of them and you can't give 100% to 100 things. And I was trying and I got burned out and I had to step back from everything, close everything down, stop releasing new episodes, stop showing up on social media. Really, I didn't go anywhere in my life. I just went to work and came home and slept and I needed it. That was. That was the thing I needed at the time. And as I started doing things again in my mind, how can I do this sustainably? What can I do to support myself? You have different goals for different seasons and different benchmarks for success. So what does success look like?

Speaker 1: 4:53

This podcast for the month of August. I know my plate is going to be way more full than what it normally is during the school year and when it has been all summer and I thought, hmm, I could batch episodes. I have a couple interviews that I recorded that I haven't released yet. Like, okay, we're going to go to one episode a week because that's sustainable, and I'm going to leave the option to throw in bonus episodes. If there's something I'm like I have to tell you about right now, then we're going to throw in some bonus episodes, but yeah, it's just like one a week, okay, cool.

Speaker 1: 5:28

So I like looked it out and I was like, okay, well, that's, you know, I need five things. Well, there's two, okay, three episodes. I was like I could do three, I could batch three. So I was like, hey, I want to batch it. You can record it early, that's allowed. Nobody says anything. So the month of August I'm going to tell you. Now I'm going to be showing up on social media every day, I'm going to be talking to you every week on this podcast.

Speaker 1: 5:55

But for the next couple episodes, I'm going to record them ahead of time, because that's why you need to be successful, and that's okay. And I just want to be transparent with you, because I talk about on this show how it's a come with me, let's figure life out together, type of podcast. I don't have it all together, and so that's what we need to do and so that's what I'm going to do and I just want to share that with you as a permission slip Not that you need to know it, but a permission slip in your life to make changes on how you do things. How you show up Normally I record these episodes like a week ahead of time things, how you show up Normally, I record these episodes like a week ahead of time and I thought let's do something that we know works.

Speaker 1: 6:36

I like batch working. I like to prepare weeks at a time. It just works for my brain better in all other areas of my life. So I thought why are you doing this here Now? If I want to update you on something in real time, I can. I'm going to be talking about it on Instagram, but I can do release a bonus episode. There's no rules. This is my podcast. I make the rules. So that's what we're going to do.

Speaker 1: 6:55

I just wanted to catch you up with like what it's going to look like on here, and this was a very long winded way of catching you up. So I appreciate you making it the six minutes into this. But I have something really cool that I want to tell you. I just did so my friend Kelly Bluth, which I'm hoping to have her on soon so we can talk about this because, oh my gosh, she gave me the opportunity to speak at my first event. I've had the opportunity to speak in a couple people that I know, their membership communities and lead a workshop, and that has been super fun. This was my first keynote speaking event and she held a virtual health summit and it was so cool. There was seven or eight speakers why am I blanking right now? And it was all women and talking about holistic health, and so I brought to the piece mindset. She was like will you come talk about mindset? And I was like, yes, I love talking about this. And so I came on and I'm going to be real with you.

Speaker 1: 7:57

I blacked out, like I don't like not literally passed out, but like I don't really remember what I said, like I got done talking and I was like I really hope that was helpful and beneficial, because talking to you right now is way different from seeing your screen full of people staring at you. So I can't even imagine what it would be like to talk in a room full of people. But I kind of blacked out, I just did my thing, was in the zone and was like God, just use me, say whatever, use the words come out of my mouth, say what needs to be said here. And yeah, so I, I get done. And I'm like okay, I'm like I think it was good. Looking at everybody's faces, like I think it's good.

Speaker 1: 8:38

And, um, I started getting messages from people that are like, of course, my friend Kelly, like she's such an amazing friend, she's like the epitome of a hype woman and like the friend who's going to encourage you and make a big deal out of like the simplest thing that you do and is going to boost your confidence. And she like texted me and was like, oh, my gosh, that was so good. Like that was fire, like you brought it. Another friend of mine that was there. I was like, hey, I want you to know you did so good because I was messaging her. But I was nervous because the speaker before me has a lot more experience speaking and I was like, oh, and like she had a slide deck and everything. I just was like, oh, what am I doing?

Speaker 1: 9:14

Like imposter syndrome hit hard. And I'm sharing that because I just want you to know like I experience this too, like all these things that I talk about you on all these episodes of this podcast, like things I'm navigating and continue to navigate in my life, and so, anyway, she was like hyping me up and I was like, okay, it was good, like I mean, I felt like it was good, but I don't really remember. So I was like, okay, like this is awesome. And like the next day, somebody was like I just want you to know, like this was really cool and I got a lot from it and that was amazing and all these things, and like it's such a nice thing to hear.

Speaker 1: 9:50

Because, like I have imposter syndrome and I realized I have a hard time seeing myself, the way other people see me, and that is something that I need to work on. I was like, oh, okay, I have a hard time. Like everybody's saying like I made such an impact in their life and they had some takeaways that they never thought of, and like they're going to walk away from this changed and, um, they're going to walk away from this changed. And I was like, really, like it's just me. I mean like I spend 24 seven with myself, like I'm familiar with myself, like I don't think it's anything special, and I was like I mean, like I know, I know things, but really like that much, like it was that good, like okay, and I realized like I have a hard time seeing myself the way other people see me and I've just really been like leaning into that right now and like allowing myself to see that, and so, anyway, I just thought like I wanted to share that like people say like take the compliment, just like, say thank you and just like, take it, don't try to be like no, whether or no matter, it is like hey, you look good today.

Speaker 1: 10:59

Like oh, no, this thing. Like how often does somebody like, oh, your outfit's cute, and you're like no, like, oh, this old thing. Like you immediately put it down, or really, this is just from walmart. Like no, like stop putting yourself down. Just like take it, say thank you, like let it be, let people reflect to you what you don't see in yourself. And it was just really cool. And like I'm not coming to be like oh, oh yeah, I'm so amazing. Like no, I had a good talk and it was good, like it was impactful, and I spoke from the heart and I had a person that I look up to and like a mentor, like from afar.

Speaker 1: 11:37

Mine reached out and she said there were ladies in my membership community that were there and they were just talking about you, like Monday morning I talked on Saturday. Like Monday morning they were just raving about you and I just thought, like that's really cool, like hey, like she didn't have to go out of her way to tell me this and she's like I just want you to believe in yourself, like I don't. I just want you to have that encouragement and know, like hey, you're onto something like and those are the things you rely on when you reach out to speak and you get told no, or you do have one, that's bad and I mean anything you start is bad. I am so much more comfortable talking to you than I was our first episode together and so, like, go back and listen to episode one. I was super nervous, I felt like I was going to throw up, but I showed up. I did it. I put my reps in. We're over 100 episodes in. This is episode 123. And I'm just getting better, and I know episode 223 is going to be even better. You just get better with reps.

Speaker 1: 12:43

But I just really wanted to like share that of like, let people see you and learn how to hold space for people to see you, how they see you, and not try to be like, oh, they're lying or oh, this like no, just just let it sit, it's okay. It is okay to receive a compliment and it boosts your confidence. That is allowed. I'm not going in here like, oh yeah, I should get paid $2 million to come speak. Like, no, I'm not Jamie Kern, lima, trent Shelton, of their level no, I'm not. They've been doing it way longer than me, but does that mean like I don't have something to say? No, and so I reached out to my friend Kelly, who hosted this, and I was like hey, can I, are you good if I share the audio for from my talk on my podcast? And, of course, like she's so graciously, was like, yes, like I'd love for you to like cool, you know whatever.

Speaker 1: 13:46

And so next week, next Monday, if you're listening to this in real time, episode 124 is going to be. I'm going to share that talk, the audio from that talk that I gave, and there's there's so many good takeaways from it. Um, like I mean, I knew when I was like framing it out, I was like this is going to be good, like I felt pretty confident, but then you black out and you don't remember. Then it's kind of nerve wracking but I wanted to share it with you because I am proud of it and I'm going to sit in this moment at the top of the mountain and be proud Because I know I'm going to go down into the valley and have to walk through the valley to get back to the next mountain peak, the peak of the mountain, and so I'm going to bask in this moment and it's okay to and I am sharing this with you to just be like.

Speaker 1: 14:39

You have the permission slip to do this in your own life. You don't need it from me. But here you go, toot your own horn, toot, toot. I need everybody to start tooting their own horns and you have to say toot, toot. You have to go toot, toot. I need the hand motions and everything because you're allowed to. Doesn't make you cocky, it doesn't mean you're conceited, it's confident. You're allowed to enjoy moments when you're on top of the mountain, because those, this, that feeling in that moment, is what fuels you when you're on top of the mountain, because those, this, that feeling in that moment, is what fuels you when you're in the valley.

Speaker 1: 15:10

So to recap, this mild squirrel brain of a life update episode, which let me know if you like these and also doing more of them. If you like them, go to the show notes. Like I said, if you're listening on Apple, hit the three dots, go to episode. At the top there's a button that says send us a text message on us. Send me a text message, let me know if you like this, or DM me on Instagram. Share with me that like. Hey, I like these episodes more, also doing them.

Speaker 1: 15:44

But to recap one, you're allowed to change the rules on your goals. You're allowed to redefine what success looks like for your goals in different seasons and you get to change. You get to pivot and change and go along. You get to define success for you in all seasons of your life and that definition is allowed to be fluid and is allowed to change. The other big thing I want you to take away from this is to allow people to compliment you and hold space for that. Enjoy the mountaintop. Take in the view. You can't stay there, it's not going to last. You're not going to keep growing. To grow as a human, you have to keep going. You have to climb down the view. You can't stay there, it's not going to last. You're not going to keep growing. To grow as a human, you have to keep going. You have to climb down the mountain and walk through the valley to the next one, but enjoy it. Live in the moment and enjoy it, because that's going to fuel you on the hard days.

Speaker 1: 16:40

Thank you so much for listening and chatting with me today.

Speaker 1: 16:44

I truly love getting to do this.

Speaker 1: 16:48

First, I want to say thank you so much for listening to today's episode.

Speaker 1: 16:51

It truly means so much to me that you were here and that I got to be a small part of your day.

Speaker 1: 16:56

I have three things to tell you before you go, though. First, please rate and review this podcast. It truly helps this podcast grow and get the message out, and is such a simple thing that you could do to support this show. Thank you for doing that. Second, share this episode with somebody right now that you know needs to hear it, or take a screenshot. Tag me on social media and let me know what you loved about this episode. Love getting to connect with you. And the third last thing I have is I cannot let you go without sending you off into the rest of your day with the reminder that I want you to always remember you are worthy, you have value, you get to take up space in this world simply because you exist. Don't let anyone, including yourself, convince you otherwise, and if that idea or vision for your life is in you, it is for you. Living with this phrase in mind in today's world is such a truly audacious thing for you to do so until the next time I talk to you, remember, have the audacity.